Why I Feel Like I Wasted My 20’s


Sladana Mitrovic
3 March 2019

Usually, when you hear someone say they wasted their 20’s it’s because they spent a good chunk of those years drinking to the point of oblivion.

But since I grew up with an alcoholic father, I refused to ever drink to the excess I would watch my 20-something friends drink.

When I say I wasted my 20’s I mean I thought I had all the time in the world to be directionless and did not lay any foundations for my 30’s or beyond.

It’s like I’d given up straight out of the gate. School ended and so did any desire for structure. I was my own person now, I could vote and pay taxes and I wasn’t about to let the adults in my life dictate my future any longer.

The problem was I didn’t know how to be an adult. I wasn’t prepared, I didn’t understand that there are now choices you’ll have to make that will affect the rest of your life.

While I worked at semi-good jobs in the big smoke, I genuinely felt lost, like a dandelion floating the limitless sky.

Had I actually understood that your 20’s serve as a great jump start to the rest of your life I would have done things a little different.

I have to pause for a moment to also add that it’s never too late to ‘do’ anything, it just gets harder as you get older.

Your 20’s are gold, it’s the time you set the tone for the rest of your life.

If I could re-do my 20’s then it would look something like this:

Don’t stop learning. Pick up a self-development book and apply what you learn.

Save 10% of everything you earn.

Buy that place next door to your grandparents, you’ve already got the money, it will set you up financially for the rest of your life.

Live unapologetically - don’t worry about what everyone else is doing.

Like I once heard someone say you can’t put a 40-something brain in a 20-something body.

If you’re rebellious like I was then you’ll take the longer route as I did. Unless of course your do what I didn’t and apply what I have written here to your 20-something life.

I wish someone outside of my family, who I would’ve listened too, had told me what I’m telling you now. I think I would have really heard what they had to say.

And the internet looked a lot different. Back then it was more mechanical nothing really personal was being shared, no blogs or YouTube to hear other people take on life.

I love what the internet is now able to do, it has become a platform for sharing my journey with you so that you can make the improvements to your life based on my past experiences.

Let’s hope my experience will help give someone a little more direction in life.