What is Self-Confidence and How Can I Develop Mine


Jennifer Robson
23 November 2017

Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment. Self-confidence is made up of self-efficacy and self-esteem. We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we master skills and achieve goals in a certain skill set or area. We learn that if we work hard in an area we will become successful and we become confident in that success. Self-esteem often overlaps with self-efficacy.
It is the general sense that we can cope with what's going on in our lives and that we have a right to be happy. Partly, this comes from a feeling that the people around us approve of us, which we may or may not be able to control. However, it also comes from the sense that we are behaving virtuously, that we're competent at what we do, and that we can compete successfully when we put our minds to it.

Having self-confidence is one of the biggest keys to your success. If you do not believe in yourself, it is difficult to accomplish anything.  

Self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires. If you do not exude a sense of confidence, other people will not have confidence in you. Confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.

Our top tips for building self-confidence
  • Start Each Day with a Smile. Smiling has a special way of making you feel good about yourself and your life.
  • Be grateful for each day. A new day means new opportunities. This means new ways to make yourself happy and get closer to your ultimate goals.
  • Write out your doubts on paper. Don’t let your doubts eat away at you throughout the day. Get them out on paper in the morning. You will discover that a lot of your doubts seem silly.
  • Do Something You Love to Do. Take some time out today and do something you really love doing.
  • Make a List of Everything You’re Good At. We all have special talents and unique skillsets. Even if your special talents aren’t readily apparent to the layperson, this doesn’t mean they aren’t important. So make a great list of everything you are good at. No matter how small your talent or skill may be, write it down. You may surprise yourself just how much you have to offer.
  • Face One of Your Biggest Fears
  • List the ten best things you've achieved in an "Achievement Log."
  • Set some goals and aim to achieve them

The first step to self-confidence is being grateful for each day, think deeply about all your existing skills and characteristics and be consciously grateful for them. SMILE. Be consciously aware of your doubts get them out by writing them down.
Each day do something to face one of your fears. Mastering a fear can be a huge confidence boost. Remember to celebrate your achievements and make an effort to do this regularly. Be proud of who you are and what you have achieved, and know what you want to achieve next. GO FOR IT!
The Singles Sisterhood have a wonderful eCourse called The Happy Single that can help you achieve self-confidence and shine a light on your deepest wishes and desires for your life.
Members can pop straight into the Members eCourse library to access this course right now.